Heal My Heart
GRIEF THERAPY
A gentle, evidence-based approach to finding peace after loss using IADC.
A Personal Path Through Grief
How Lived Experience and Evidence-Based Therapy Led Me to IADC​​​​
Grief is not something I came to through theory alone.
It is something I have lived.​
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Between 2015 and 2021, I experienced a series of profound losses. In the space of just a few years, I lost my older brother, my mum, my younger brother, my dad, and my sister.
I organised every funeral. I spoke at every service. And through it all, I continued with life — raising three teens, sustaining a marriage, running a business, and keeping everything moving forward.
Outwardly, I coped. Inwardly, I carried layers of grief, responsibility, and unspoken guilt that never fully resolved.
Over time, the cost of holding everything together became clear. The grief I had not been able to fully process began to show up in my body and emotional health, signalling that something deeper needed attention.
Looking back now, I can see just how much I was carrying, and why finding a way to truly process what had been left unresolved became essential.
When Understanding Isn’t Enough
By this time, I had already spent over 20 years working in counselling, healing, and mental health. I understood grief. I had supported countless people through loss. I knew the language, the stages, and the therapeutic frameworks.
Yet my own grief needed something more than understanding.
It needed resolution.
Talking about the losses helped, but it did not lift the emotional weight. Time passed, but some of the pain remained just as present. What I needed was a way to process grief at a deeper level, without endlessly reliving it.
Then I discovered Induced After Death Communication (IADC) on a podcast.
Discovering IADC
What stood out to me immediately about IADC was how natural it felt, and how quickly it worked. IADC did not require me to analyse my grief or revisit the trauma repeatedly. Instead, it provided a safe, contained therapeutic process that allowed unresolved emotions to shift. The guilt I had been carrying softened. The heaviness eased. There was a sense of peace that did not erase love or memory, but allowed life to open again.
For the first time, I experienced grief therapy that did not keep me anchored in loss, but helped me move forward while still honouring those I had lost.
Why IADC Was the Right Path for Me
Alongside my lived experience, my professional background has always sat at the intersection of the clinical and the intuitive.
I hold a Bachelor of Counselling and a PhD in Metaphysical Science. I am also an author and have spent decades working with consciousness, healing, and mental health.
I am also a medium, with a natural ability to connect intuitively. While this can bring comfort and relief, I have always believed that true healing must come from within the person who is grieving. When the information is received only through me, it can offer reassurance, but it does not always create the deeper resolution I wanted for my clients. I was seeking an approach where the healing experience belonged to them, not me.
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What made IADC the right path for me was that it is:
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A researched, evidence based grief therapy
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Supported by clinical studies and peer reviewed journal articles
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Delivered within a safe, structured, and ethical therapeutic framework
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Naturally aligned with my intuitive abilities and understanding of consciousness
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Designed to allow the client themselves to experience the healing, rather than having it mediated through the therapist
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IADC became the bridge between everything I had lived, studied, and practiced. It allowed me to integrate my personal experience of grief with professional training in a way that truly helps people heal.
Why I Am Comfortable Holding Conversations About Death
From a young age, death has been part of my life. I lost people around me early on, and that pattern continued as I moved through adulthood. Loss was never something distant or theoretical for me. It showed up again and again, shaping how I understood life, love, and connection.
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I want to be clear though. I am not comfortable with death in the sense that it is easy or painless. Loss hurts. Grief hurts. What I am is not afraid of death, and I am not uncomfortable talking about it.
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That has nothing to do with how much I have lost. It comes from something deeper.
I have always felt a natural connection beyond the physical world. An awareness of oneness. A sense that life continues, that connection does not end, and that this human experience does not simply stop at death. Even in moments of deep grief, that knowing has remained quietly present.
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Because of this, death has never felt morbid or frightening to me. It has felt like a transition that many people struggle to understand, especially when they are in pain. When grief is overwhelming, it can block our ability to feel connection, meaning, or closeness. But that does not mean those things are gone.
I believe part of my role is to sit with people in that pain without fear, without avoidance, and without needing to rush them through it. To help them gently reconnect with what grief can temporarily make hard to access. The sense that love continues, connection remains, and they are not alone.
Grief Takes Many Forms
There is another layer of grief that often goes unspoken, and that is the loss of our animals.
​When you love an animal, they move through life beside you. They are there in the quiet moments, the routines, the companionship that doesn’t require words. And then suddenly, they are gone. The pain can be devastating.​ What makes this kind of grief particularly difficult is that it is often minimised. After a while, people expect you to move on. To remind yourself it was “just a pet” or “just an animal,” as though the depth of love and connection somehow counts for less.
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For me, after holding myself together through the loss of my family members, it was the death of my beautiful cat, Holly, that finally broke me open. That was the moment everything I had been carrying came to the surface. It wasn’t because her life mattered more. It was because grief does not follow rules, hierarchies, or logic.​ Grief arrives in its own way, in its own time. No loss is greater or smaller than another. It does not depend on whether the one who died was human or animal. It does not even depend on how long or how closely you knew them. What matters is the meaning and connection that existed.​This is why I believe grief must be met with compassion rather than comparison. If it hurts, it matters. And if it matters, it deserves care.
How I Work With Grief
IADC is not about staying in grief.
It is about helping you move through it.
This work gives people permission to live again. To reconnect with those still here. To release the guilt, burden, or emptiness that grief can leave behind. It does not take away love or memory. Instead, it allows space for peace, meaning, and emotional resolution.
I offer IADC therapy in a way that is grounded, contained, and deeply respectful of each person’s experience. My approach is both professional and compassionate, shaped by lived understanding as well as decades of clinical and therapeutic work.
Grief can be isolating. You do not have to carry it alone.